Um. Halp? :D?

[tree_talking]

As some of you know, I have not been having a wonderful few weeks. My issues are parti-colored and diverse, and I have more of them than National Geographic. And...I'm really not up for discussing them.

Tomorrow is the ten year anniversary of my mother's death, and this coming Sunday is Mother's Day. Neither of these days is my favorite, obviously. It's no wonder that my depression/anxiety issues are at an all time high at the moment.

I'm trying to take on a whole different workload, not at work, but at home. My husband is working fourteen hour days five days a week, and six hours on Saturday. I have to learn to cook, and I need to figure out how to adjust my workload to accommodate taking care of a house, my kid, and a cat.

And then, there's the fact that I haven't written anything in my novel in months and months and I haven't touched my harp in a long time either. I'm dying to perform in front of people (and not just at church, which I don't consider 'performance' per se), but have absolutely NO opportunities to do so. I have not picked up a book since last summer, and my attention span for that sort of thing seems non-existent.

I barely do my hair in the morning. Makeup? Yeah, right. I haven't bought new clothing in ages. And...that's not really an option right now. I'm struggling to eat right and exercise.

I'm struggling with everything.

Now, I'm planning to use flylady.com 's system of 15 minute chores to deal with a lot of this stuff. However...

I'd appreciate any suggestions from my better-organized friends. Suggestions, encouragement, amusing anecdotes, whatever you've got to help me get back to me would be appreciated.

Thanks, guys.

Comments

[in-the-blue.livejournal.com]

One step at a time. Put together, everything can be so overwhelming. So pick just one or two things and work on those until they get easier. We all learn in four phases and it's a really simple model. The first phase is called unconscious incompetence, having no idea we don't know what we're doing. The second phase is conscious incompetence, knowing we don't know what we're doing and not knowing how to do any of it. The third phase is knowing we don't know and learning how to do it (conscious competence), and the fourth phase is unconscious competence, knowing and the doing becomes automatic. When we're stuck in phase two -- knowing we don't know but not knowing what to do about it -- everything can seem impossible.

So pick ONE thing. Pick dinner. Pick learning to cook a few simple things successfully. Not everything has to be a big deal; you can be as creative with cooking as with writing or playing music. It's just channeled differently. Pick that one thing, plan yourself out meals for ONE week, and go through that cycle ONE time.

Also, if you're going to take on one new thing, drop one old thing that's no longer serving you. Especially if you feel you only have so much room in your life.

And know that people love you.

[shellebelle93.livejournal.com]

Thank you, G. You always know good things to tell me and I appreciate it. *hugs*

[in-the-blue.livejournal.com]

I've been waiting to use this line. Here goes.

I'm just a humble bounty hunter, ma'am.

♥